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You Can't Pour From an Empty Cup, Mama

After our second son was born, I received an unexpected package in the mail from my cousin. When I saw the box I assumed it was a gift for the new baby.  I was overwhelmed with emotion when I opened a bright, delightfully smelling box of comforting items just for me. I felt validated. I felt like I mattered when cultural expectation pressured me to sacrifice my own wellbeing for the health and happiness of my newborn. 

In the package was an over-sized '#happy' mug. At that time I was feeling anything but #happy. But the thoughtfulness of my cousin and others in my life gave me hope.

I decided to intentionally make my postpartum health as much of a priority as the health of my baby. As weeks passed, then months, I began making changes that set me on the path to wellness.

I reconnected with spirituality practices. I researched, wrote about, and began practicing mindfulness. I started morning and evening self-care routines. And I'm not afraid to say I started medication for anxiety and depression. My perspective changed, the fog lifted, colors became brighter. I remembered what it felt like to laugh.

The image and quote below were shared in my online support group for Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders (herein referred to as PMAD's) and it was a game-changer for how I think of myself now that I'm a mother. 

Becoming a mother is a transformation that often gets overlooked in our culture, in the shadow of the beautiful, new baby.

But it doesn't have to be that way. 

In the past year, I have learned so much about how maternal health care can and should be. I've had the privilege of being in touch with the author of New York Times article, The Birth of  Mother, psychiatrist Dr. Alexandra Sacks. I've written articles about parenting that have been widely shared and read by thousands of people. 

Sometimes when you think you’ve been buried, you’ve actually been planted.

I would never have guessed this is where my journey into motherhood would lead me. But my article writing and creation of my business would not have been possible if I hadn't been motivated by that self-care package to make myself a priority.

So, I'm setting out on a mission to make that same type of gift I received available for loved ones to send to new moms everywhere. They'll soon be available here on my site!  

I truly believe it's my purpose to take all my challenges, research, and professional experience and share it with other parents. I'm so thrilled to live in these times of online connection and digital learning to shape a career that allows me to do what I love and love what I do. 

If you're ready for a more peaceful, purposeful, playful family lifestyle, that's what this is all about. My one-on-one services will get you pointed in the right direction. 

I'm so glad to have you here! 

Namaste.